Sunday, May 17, 2015

Do I listen?

Take a listen to Lalita Amos talk on two radical ideas about listening. She is magical.

"What I figured out is that I had had been bumping up against two broad common listening barriers... That is listening for agreement and listening for threat."

I hope you take a few minutes to listen to her, and think of the commentary in your mind that creates some of the noise that prevents us from truly listening to the other. You'll learn something--and laugh too. I promise.

Maybe we can all learn to "squint with our ears to really hear what people are saying by listening more deeply and completely." Make your next conversation one that opens you to a "new future."


Sunday, May 10, 2015

Mother's Day

Mom and me when I was 12 hours old
I was looking through Facebook this evening and it was replete of funny, heartwarming, and bittersweet images friends with their mothers. A few years back I took custody of most of my childhood photos when my parents downsized and moved into a smaller home. My mom thought my Civil War era closet-free home might have more storage options than their new downsized home. 

I digress.

If we paid attention in high school biology class we know the stuff our bodies and minds are made up of come from the genetic material of our mother and father. 

Did you know that the genetic material of a baby spreads throughout the body of its mother and circulates around her body for the rest of her life

Happy mother's day, mom. Is it a surprise that I grew up to become anything other than the irreverent psychologist? 

Halloween with my sister, mom, and unidentified elf.

My mom graduating from BW with a degree in psychology
My dad in all his 70s glory
My sister demonstrating her early superiority

Graduating from BW with my degree in psychology

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Do you know Yusor Abu-Salha?

Take a few moments out of your day to listen to this heartbreaking interview Yusor Abu-Salha did with her teacher for Story Corps. Yusor, if you don't know, was recently murdered in North Carolina. 

A man "upset about parking" stormed into her apartment and murdered Yusor along with her husband, Deah Shaddy Barakat, and her sister Razan Mohammad Abu-Salha. 

There are so many senseless murders. Every day, more happen, and we lose more voices as the death toll adds up. Take a moment to learn what the world lost here and here

From the Story Corps interview:

Read more here: http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2015/02/21/5530144/for-years-craig-stephen-hicks.html#storylink=cpy

"I would like people to know and remember her as a practicing Muslim, as a daughter, and above all, as a good human being. When we write our comments on report cards we say they exceeded our expectations. She exceeded our expectations."

Friday, February 20, 2015

Gay and Lesbian Senior Citizens Share Some Advice

Just the other day I was talking to my mother about how damaging it is that gay men lost nearly a whole generation of men who would have been the elders of my community now.

...and now I come across this video. Take a listen to the touching advice shared by a group of gay and lesbian senior citizens.